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The narcissist is an actor in a monodrama, yet he is forced to remain behind the scenes.

The scenes take centre stage, instead.

The Narcissist does not cater at all to his own needs. Contrary to his reputation, the Narcissist does not "love" himself in any true sense of this loaded word.

The narcissist feeds off other people who hurl back at him an image that he projects to them. This is their sole function in his world : to reflect his False Self, to admire him, to applaud his actions, even to detest and fear him - in a word, to assure him that he exists by giving him constant attention.

Otherwise, the narcissist feels that they have no right to tax his time, energy, or emotions.

In the essay, I survey the main body of research about Narcissism.

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Contents - The World of the Narcissist (Essay)

Introduction: Narcissism - The Soul of a Narcissist - The State of the Art

Chapter One: Narcissism - Being Special

Chapter Two: Narcissism - Uniqueness and Intimacy

Chapter Three: The Workings of a Narcissist - A Phenomenology

Chapter Four: The Tortured Self - The Inner World of the Narcissist

Chapter Five: Narcissists and Women

Chapter Six: The Concept of Narcissistic Supply

Chapter Seven: The Concepts of Narcissistic Accumulation and of Narcissistic Regulation

Chapter Eight: The Narcissist's Emotional Involvement Preventive Measures

Chapter Nine: Narcissistic Loss of Control of Grandiosity

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